You Are You!

Ok ladies, I've been on the dating scene forever & in the past I was guilty of the following but I eventually learned better.
So we all know how exciting the "honeymoon phase" of a new relationship is and how you just can't get enough of this person and the mere thought of being away from them makes you want to die but ladies, you cannot succumb to this nagging desire to spend every waking moment with this dude. I say that you are allowed no more than 3 weeks of disappearance in a relationship and then you need to get back to reality. If you spend more than that amount of time all locked up with your new man you are going to start losing relationships that you have been building for years. Your bff that has been around since high school isn't going to take kindly to you ignoring her for some guy, and eventually will just walk away from you. Spending all of your time with your man is only going to cause your friends to hate him which will again cause them to leave you, all alone with your man, who I can guarantee hasn't given his friends up for you. I'm not saying that you can't talk to him all of the time but when the weekend comes I find it best to spend one day with the man & one with the friends then everyone is happy. I will also say that when you are out with your friends they don't want to hear you talk about your man all night. You are you, you still have your own identity & your own life, interests, views...etc. I recommend treating a new relationship like you have been in it for years, not weeks. This will be greatly appreciated by your friends, his friends, and best of all the relationship which will be much stronger & stand a better chance when there is space involved rahter than smothering each other & the fire between you. Question my suggestions? Watch the Lauren/Heidi/Spencer saga on teh Hills & if you want to live friendless like Heidi then ignore all I've said, but if you would rather not be talked about by your "friends" behind your back then taek my suggestions to heart. Your man should compliment you, not run your life!!